tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1056049297418762038.post9160401105732976231..comments2023-10-19T08:46:10.886-04:00Comments on Stay at Home Mom of Four and NO MORE...: I am having a problemGinny Gillhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12437741435574630004noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1056049297418762038.post-12539584760390727262008-01-09T23:26:00.000-05:002008-01-09T23:26:00.000-05:00ps - i just saw an ad for a washer and dryer that ...ps - i just saw an ad for a washer and dryer that can handle 3 loads at once! i thought of you immediately!kittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00795465588200378595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1056049297418762038.post-74918083128429872842008-01-09T23:22:00.000-05:002008-01-09T23:22:00.000-05:00first of all, you're so brave to admit that. proud...first of all, you're so brave to admit that. proud of you.<BR/>ok, let's think. it really sounds like you need some time each week that's just yours. can you hire a sitter, even just one afternoon a week? before you say you can't find one who'll take four kids, remember that you were willing and wonderful with a family of 4 when you were a teenager. is there a teen in the neighborhood that you trust? maybe you can get her for an afternoon - you get the kids home and she helps them with homework, fixes them supper (who cares if it's pb&j with marshmellows) and gets them ready for bed while you take a few hours to ... go take a nap in your car in the cul de sac around the corner? i don't know. just thinking.<BR/>or maybe chad can give you a saturday afternoon every<BR/>other week so you can go do whatever you want for a couple of hours. if it's really important to you and your sanity and your ability as a mother, push it with him. maybe you all can reach a compromise. <BR/>does that help?<BR/>another thought is to try to disengage some. is your reffing always needed or can you back out more? as my mom always said, a little good old fashioned neglect never hurt anyone. can the older ones help more? they don't always do chores perfectly, but maybe you can let the imperfections go? you have a little army on your hands - put 'em to work (within reason, of course).kittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00795465588200378595noreply@blogger.com